a rift

To the girls who say they want a nice guy.

iamabutchsolo:
against-pollution:
tastymangerine:
maybeitspms:
chronicalsofanerd:
maybeitspms:
chronicalsofanerd:
Shut the fuck up. All us nice guys stuck in fucking friendzone know what you really want is some asshole to complain about to us. GTFO. We’re tired of it.
You sound super nice. I don’t know why no one wants to date you.
What a mystery.
I’ve had a bad day ok. I’ve pretty much given this girl, who I’m really close with, my heart and she shoots me down and starts telling me about all the guy problems. It just really fucking hurts and I felt here would be a better place to vent then some of my other options.
You know what? I know what it feels like to rejected. It fucking sucks and a lot of people are able to relate to what you’re feeling. You know what else I know? I know what it feels like to build a friendship with a guy. A guy that was nice and treated me like a human being instead of walking vagina he wants to fuck. I know what it’s like to become friends with a guy like this and slowly start to trust him. Slowly we build a really meaningful relationship and I let my guard down and I start to show him vulnerable parts of myself. I start to share my fears and weaknesses with him. I start relying on this important person in my life for support when I find out that I’m being dicked around by another guy who only sees me as a walking vagina he wants to fuck. And then this guy that I really care about tells me that he has feelings for me and when I tell him that I don’t feel the same way, he turns around and calls me a bitch. He says I friendzoned him and he goes on some social networking site and starts blasting me and all of his friends are like “wow what a bitch. She doesn’t know what she’s missing” and he gets to pity himself and feel validated. I, on the other hand, am left with the realization that my friendship, that this closeness we shared didn’t mean jack shit. That this guy I trusted didn’t care enough about me as a person to not turn on me the second he found out I wouldn’t date/have sex with him. Suddenly, I’m feeling this whole time, everything I thought we had, was only as important to him as his chances to get in my pants. And let me tell you, that hurts way more than rejection.
Here’s the thing, buddy. You’re not just one guy who’s having a bad day because you had your heart broken. Browse the friend zone tag. You’re just one of the many guys that post things like pictures that say “when a girl starts telling you about her problems, she’s not complaining. It means she trust you” and the caption says “Aaaannnd you’ve been friendzoned” like having a platonic, meaningful relationship with a woman is just THE WORST FUCKING THING EVER. Do you know how shitty it feels to know that your friendship and your trust is so fucking undesirable that there’s a goddamn meme about it? Do you know how shitty it feels to know that your guy friends only care you as long as they can hold on to the possibility of one day fucking you? Do you know how infuriating it is to know that that guy, that asshole who made you think he cared about you as a person, gets to flame you for daring to not be attracted to him? Because if you don’t know what that feels like, let me tell you that you’re not the one who got the shit end of the deal.
definitely not pms. this is all true.
The perfect response.
Perfect response.
my friendship should be as awesome as any potential relationship.