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I’m just a random stranger on the internet who decided to follow your blog because of all the cool artwork, and I’m also more of a lurker, rarely speaking up, so I don’t know how relevant my opinion is here. I’ve yet to see you acting like the internet stereotype famous person, though.

From the little drama I’ve seen on my dash, I think you are handling your responses very well and in a mature manner (if not a bit too emotionally, maybe – which is not a negative thing, mind you). As for people having problems with you; I know it’s easier said than done, and it’s especially difficult if the person having a problem with you is also your former friend, but you shouldn’t allow it to get this much to you. Caring too much about those things will only needlessly stress you out, when really, what people choose to be annoyed by is simply beyond your control. I hate to bring up the “HATERS ARE JUST JEALOUS” card in this context, but sometimes people get sore over the fact that someone else has more people following their page than they do and will get nasty because of it. It happens a lot. I’m not saying that it’s the reason here, as there could be various other reasons as well, but none of them (or at least the vast majority of them) are not your fault. Sometimes people just change and drift apart, and it’s sad and devastating, but it’s just how things are. If you don’t know what you did to these people to deserve this kind of treatment, then it’s extremely likely that you didn’t do anything at all. It’s not a matter of you being disposable, it’s just human nature to change over time and sometimes this change causes friendships (and any other relationships, really) to crack.

That being said, for every person who loves what you do and who you are, there’s probably a person who will dislike you for the very same reasons and that, sadly, cannot be helped either. You will never please everyone, someone will always get offended at the tiniest thing, and someone will always be there to judge your every post, but again, it’s just how things and people are; it’s easier to belittle someone and talk them down than build oneself up. Don’t underestimate your real friends either; you probably mean more to them than you realize, and even if they are also friends with the people who don’t like you shouldn’t really matter in the long run (I’m speaking from personal experience here). I’m saying this because I have self-worth issues myself and often project my insecurities on my friends, which is very hurtful to them.

This got a bit long and overly moralizing (I apologize, it wasn’t my intention), so I will just finish here. I’m not trying to suck up to you, I just really like your blog and it makes me sad to see you beating yourself emotionally over something like this. I know it’s hard to entirely ignore the negativity surrounding you, but if it cannot be helped, then maybe  it would be better to push it back and focus on the positive instead. Just do your own thing, post what you like, speak what’s on your mind and try to accept the negative as an annoying addition to your popularity and not its main focus :)